Verify unreserved consent before touching or engaging in any sort of play with anyone.
Consent may be withdrawn at any time.
Any person who is significantly impaired, by alcohol or otherwise, is not capable of consent. Do not engage in any sort of play or sexual activity if you know or suspect someone to be impaired.
If you observe someone who appears to be too intoxicated to consent to the activities they are engaging in, inform a DM, host, or resident. Or address your concerns directly with the people involved.
If you observe someone's consent being violated, intervene immediately if possible, or alert the first person that is available. Stopping such a violation is the responsibility of everyone present.
If you are involved in a scene, use and respect the Stoplight System (red, yellow, green). If a person says “red” all play must stop immediately and those involved must discuss the scene to make sure of everyone's well being. “Yellow” means that the person is requesting a reduction in the intensity of the scene. “Green” is used to indicate that a person is comfortable with the current level.
Never feel pressured or obligated to play with anyone. Your invitation to future events will never depend upon whether or with whom you chose to play.
You may stop any game or play at any time with no pressure to continue.
Absolutely no photos or video without express consent of everyone who might be in it, including background.
Do not be under the influence of, or in possession of, narcotics, cocaine, heroine, fentanyl, MDMA and its friends (ecstasy, X, MDA, Molly, etc), PCP, opiates, whip-its in the pool area, amphetamines, or any prescription drugs except as prescribed by your doctor; this includes arriving intoxicated.
You are responsible for the misbehavior of any guests who accompany you; only invite those who you trust and watch over them to the best of your ability.
Please do not have more than one person behind any closed door unless an Alfheim resident is present.
No glass in or around the pool.
No wrestling or raucous behavior in or around the pool.
No sex in the pool.
If you should pass out and become unresponsive and cannot be roused due to the consumption of alcohol or other substances, you will be sent to the hospital and be held responsible for all costs incurred.
Wear shoes of some kind when outside, as there may be sharp rocks, stray nails, or debris that we missed.
Please promptly attend to any spills. If you need help finding the supplies please ask a resident or host.
Refer to anyone you meet by name, title, pronoun they request, or don't refer to them at all. It is considered rude to ask for someone's "real/other" name, or if their name is real.
Do not make negative comments about anyone else's scene, project, costume, presentation, etc.
Avoid making noise and being disruptive around scenes or performances.
If someone does something that bothers or offends you, do your best to address it with that person before bringing it to the attention of the house, with the exception that this person's actions are threatening, intimidating, illegal, etc.
If you believe someone is being harassed or made uncomfortable, please inquire to them about their well-being.
Keep smoking of any kind to the smoking tent. Vaping can be done outside.
If you bring any additional persons as your accompaniment (+1) please present them at the door to be introduced and given a wrist-band with your name written upon it.
Know who you are bringing; only invite people who you trust to be able to uphold the behavioral standards of the event to which you are bringing them.
Please review and follow all event-specific rules.
No drinking past 2am.
Do not become inebriated to the point that you risk becoming disruptive or ill.
Constrain sexual activity to the appropriately appointed area.
We discourage phone use outside of emergency use, as it diminishes social interactions, and tends to create barriers between yourself and those around you.
We discourage photos except in designated photo areas. Do not take pictures or video of anyone without their consent. This includes people in the background.
Please introduce new guests to a few of the residents.
If anything is damaged, please notify a resident immediately.
In order to maintain a space in which people feel comfortable exploring kink, privacy must be respected. It is best to keep online discussion of these events limited to only the official Alfheim social media pages. Do not tag or name anyone without their consent.
Avoid leveraging peoples' attraction to your partner(s) as a reason for them to engage with you, as this can often cause people to feel pressured or coerced outside of their comfort zone. Conversely, do not fake interest in someone simply as a way to initiate contact with their partner(s).
Don’t express disingenuous interest in someone for any purpose.
Observe the rating for each event and act accordingly.
If you think you might have sex, plan ahead and bring your own towel to lay down in the appropriate area for hygienic purposes.
Social Media Etiquette: Calling out specific members, guests, or the Society itself on Alfheim Society social media pages will not be tolerated. Your post will be removed and you may forfeit your position on the Guest List.
Do not friend request people you just met unless you get express permission first.